Situation 805: “I created a fake social media account to talk to my kid”

I wanted to see what you guys thought about this. Im feeling pretty guilty about something and I need to talk about it to make sure I’m not doing anything wrong. It involves my 13 year old son. He recentley, maybe within the last year, has been shutting down and keeping to himself keeping me out of the loop overall and not sharing any of his life with me. So I kinda did something… I created a fake teen girl account on Instagram and Tik Tok. I am posing as a teen girl and talking to him on a daily basis to see what I can learn about how he is feeling. He is opening up to me like never before. My sister says what I am doing is wrong and that I should tell him the truth. My brother says I need to do whatever I can to learn what he is thinking. Is this wrong? Who is right… my brother or my sister? Should I come clean?

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