Situation 805: “I’m the maid of honor, but I don’t want to go to the wedding…”

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Hi guys so I want discuss my situation with all of you and I would like to hear different points of view and maybe someone can give me some advice. So one of my best friends moved to the L.A. area about 2 years ago. She got engaged right before she moved out there and she asked me to be her maid of honor. I was honored to be asked and of course I said yes! (That was 2 years ago) Well the wedding is coming up in October and I don’t know if I could convince myself to attend. In these past 2 years I gained so much weight. I REALLY let myself go. The more weight I gain the harder it is to lose it. I knew the wedding was coming up but I just got really comfortable with myself. I went to get fitted for my gown and I felt so uncomfortable looking at myself in the mirror. It was in that moment I realized I have let myself go. I decided to start working out & eat healthier but it’s not going to make a huge difference from here to then. I know this day isn’t about me it’s about my friend and her soon to be husband but I am seriously thinking of not going because I don’t feel good about the way I look. I have no one to blame but myself. I talked to my friend about how I felt and me not wanting to attend the wedding. She said it would mean a lot if I stick to being her maid of  honor and it would hurt her feelings if I don’t go. But I know for a fact that if I do go I’m just going to be feeling bad for myself. Pictures will be taken, friends I haven’t seen in years will be there… it’s just a nightmare that is giving me anxiety.  Is it wrong for me if I choose to not go to the wedding? Possibly I am being selfish, but I just feel I should not attend for my own well being. I don’t see what else to do. (email your situation to: