Hello SandyDanger and Dj Ewrek hope all is well! Just wanted to say I really enjoy your situation 805. My co-worker and me always listen and even look forward to the facebook comments. HaHaHa. So now I guess it’s my turn to share my situation with this guy I have been dating. Well before I start I need to give you the back story: I am married but separated going through a long divorce because there’s kids, money, and a home involved. So here goes my situation I met a guy about a year ago. We started talking & hit it off. Well next thing you know we are in a relationship dating but keeping it on the low for now because of my situation. Anyway our relationship has gonna as far as us saying I love you to each other. He did question how real our relationship was and how he really wanted us to go public and not hide it… which I totally understood because I want the same BUT I just need for my divorce to be finalized before we go public with our relationship. Anyways a few weeks back I noticed he was not being as affectionate as he has been and noticed he was spending time with one of his good friends sister who he has known for for a while. I didn’t think anything of it because that’s just how he is very friendly and close to his friends. So long story short one night after drinking we came back to his house he passed out and I picked up his phone scrolled through it to find out he was being extra flirtatious with that same girl (his good friends sister) even to the point that it made me feel like maybe there was something going on. I left home and the next day I confronted him, he didn’t even know what to say at first he was like yea we flirted but it’s nothing, and we kissed once but I pushed her away and told her I was really into you. I felt like that wasn’t the whole truth so I pressed him on, and low and behold they totally hooked up not once, but 3 times it devastated me. He goes on to say “ I didn’t know if our relationship was gonna go anywhere I had a moment of weakness because when you couldn’t be there she was”, and I get that, but if he wanted to do that then he could have just told me and I would have been out instead of finding out this was happening behind my back. He goes on to say “from now on, I want to be with you if you’re in 100% I will be too. I will talk to the other girl and let her know this can’t and wont happen anymore.” I agreed to it, I totally want to be with this guy, there is just one thing I asked him to do in order to move forward… he has to cut any kind of friendship with her no more going to lunch or even texting. I understand it is his friend’s sister and I am ok with him staying friends with them but not with her because she knew about me & my relationship with him. She even went as far as shaking my hand a few times and that didn’t stop her from doing this! She had no respect & didn’t care. He thinks it’s unfair that I ask that of him because they have been friends for along time. Should I cut this off now or continue????? But because I am technically still not divorced, am I in a position to ask that of him? (send in your situation: listeners@957thebeatfm.com)
