I’m thinking about ending my 4 year relationship. We’ve been disagreeing more and more often about the possibility of having children. She’s strongly against it and I’m on the fence about it. I know I don’t want any now, but I’m very confident that I will one day. She’s also been pushing me to propose a lot more lately, specially at family gatherings more when her parents around. A few days ago it finally all came to a head. I’ve been having doubts about whether or not we can really be happy long term or forever, and now it’s driving me crazy thinking about it…
We were driving home from an Easter family bbq when she asked if I felt any different about kids. I said no I still feel the same. Then her next question “if I knew when I was going to ask her to marry me”, and I didn’t have an answer. I had thought I wasn’t being rushed, as she’s said several times before, but apparently I was wrong. She said that because I wasn’t ready yet she feels like she is a placeholder. When I asked how she could feel that way, she began to cry and raise her voice. She asked, and I told her that in recent months I’ve been having doubts and had thoughts of ending things. This did not go well. We worked through it and everything seems okay NOW, but I know it’s not the last time this is going to happen… I’ve given it a lot of thought and I think at this point of our disagreement might be more than we can overcome, I do care and love her But her pressuring me to marry her and the thought of one day maybe wanting kids and her saying she will never have kids scares me…. that’s a good reason to break up right? (email your situation to: listeners@957thebeatfm.com)
