Situation 805: “My eldest son from a previous relationships is moving in with my family”

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Here it goes. I am having family issues & I’d like advice from people who don’t know us so it’s not bias. We have a 12 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. We’ve been married for 10 years but have been together for close to 14 years. I had a 16 year old son from a different relationship who lives in Mexico. Because of certain circumstances we haven’t seen each other in over 10 years except through pictures and video. I have never stopped supporting him financially and we talk on the phone every now and then. I spoke to my wife and kids about having him move here with us. His mother died of covid and he is my son and although he has his grandparents, he should be here with me. My wife admitted she’s nervous but supports my decision of having him live with us. The issue is my 14 year old son has been acting out since we’ve told him. I think he feels he’s gonna have to compete for attention & love, or take his place. They all know about my other son but they have never met him in person. How can I make this transition as smooth as possible especially for both of my sons this going to brand new to all of us. I want my son to feel welcomed, but my 14 year old is having a hard time accepting the and having to adjust. What else can I do?(email your situation to