First of all I want to say I always listen to your Situation 805 segment and I am so glad I can submit mine to you guys to ask for advise! So, my fiance was the first and only guy I have ever had sexual relations with. Yes, he took my V-card. He on the other hand was very promiscuous in his day. A few years ago we played around with the idea of him fooling around with a friend. Then it became a regular thing and now we are in the type of relationship where if I know the girl and trust that she’s clean and all he has to do is communicate with me know what’s gonna happen. I was somewhat bothered by it but not enough to ruin our relationship. Now a couple months ago I finally got my chance to see what being with others was all about, and it went down with a good friend of my fiance…AND my significant other. Yes!! Both of them at the same time. This past weekend we were all hanging out and things happened again between the 3 of us. I thought I was going to be into it and I mainly did it to make him happy, but I’m not into it!! I don’t want to have this type of relationship. It’s not for me! I want to be in a monogamist relationship. Now that we are getting closer to our wedding date. I want to tell him that I want this to stop. I know I messed up by allowing it from the beginning but I made up my mind and there’s no way I could live happily by being swingers. I love my fiance and I’m scared to lose him if he doesn’t accept my terms of being a monogamist relationship. I mean I can probably get around the idea of him being with other girls, but I don’t want to participate in it in any way. Ideally it would just be him and I. Central Coast I don’t know if anyone else has been in this situation, but if you have…I would really appreciate any advice! Thanks.
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