So here it goes my boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years, and we’ve been living together for about 1 year. We have separate accounts and pay everything half and half. I do like to work hard and save money for the future. Well the other day he wanted to borrow money from me, $3000. Even though I have more than that in my saving it is still a lot of money for me. He wants to buy a motorcycle with that money, he can’t afford to buy it if he doesn’t borrow that money. When he ask me for it I already knew the answer was no! One, because he doesn’t need the bike (he has a car) and would just really be a toy he can’t afford. Now I have let him borrow smaller amounts in the past and he has paid me back, but he did struggle paying me back. This time it’s different because it’s a larger amount. Here is my thought… he only wants the bike but does not need it. Before, I even made my decision, he got mad & said I was taking too long and he can’t wait. And now he is upset because I wanted really want to think about it and not immediately say yes. Now he is giving me the silent treatment, and is really angry. He refuses to talk about the it has even said that he can’t believe I don’t trust him enough to let him borrow the money. I told him in the past I don’t like letting anybody borrow money because usually that’s when relationship change between people. I feel like if he wants to play then he need to get a second job and save it him self. I hate that this has become a major issue. Am I being selfish or do I have a right to stand my ground?(listeners@957thebeatfm.com)
