Hi Miss Danger & DJ Ewrek ! After dating for 5 years, my fiance and I got engaged. My parents and brother were the first to hear the news. They’re really happy for us. My fiance’s best friends are thrilled, his parents are also happy for us. But his siblings? Welp… that’s a whole other story. I’m not surprised, since they’ve disliked me since they met me it seems. For the longest time, I cared what they thought, but now I’m just tired of caring. I’m tired of overlooking the things they do. One of the worst things came from his older brother, who basically encouraged him to break up with me. I’d rather not get into all the details. Long story short, we’re still together. And I’m not going to lie… I seriously feel resentful of my fiance siblings for interfering in our relationship. My fiance used to make excuses for them, but he got fed up this summer to. They got in a fight, and now he avoids spending time with them. He does, however, still talk to them.So, yeah.
That all happened before we got engaged. We announced our engagement to his parents in person. He told his siblings on his own through text message. I wouldn’t do that personally, but that’s what he thought was best. His oldest brother (the one I actually get along with) called to congratulate him. His younger sister told him that she loves him and supports whatever choice he makes. We know she’s not happy for us, but I’m glad that she at least said something positive. She obviously wants to keep a good relationship with her brother, which I completely support. Now his older sister didn’t say a word. He has done so much to help her without asking for anything in return. He helped pay for her house for a year after she gambled away all her money.
She did promise to pay him, and guess what? She never did pay him back, but she goes off on vacation 2-3 times each year. When she needs help around the house she doesn’t call her husband, my fiance goes over and helps her. We have babysat her kids many times. She doesn’t really do much back (which I keep my mouth shut about), yet she accuses me of using my fiance, because he helped me pay for college… I could go on and on about why I dislike her. But right now I’m angry that she’s choosing to completely ignore her brother. The one time he could really use her support, she ignores him. So….. should we invite her to our wedding? My fiance gets to decide, of course. I support whatever choice he makes. But I’m curious to know what other people think. Should we invite someone who reacted this way? It has been one month since he told her the news, and she still isn’t talking to him. We’re not sending invitations yet, but we do need to make our guest list and start planning things soon.
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