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My girlfriend and I have been together for a 5 years and I am thinking of ending it. Whats crazy is that only a few months ago I had thought of marrying her. She waited for me for 6 months this last year while I traveled on business through Asia. She’s a keeper right? Here is the problem I am very driven and motivated, she is not at all. When I’m not around she just sits around wishing I was there, I need and want a “go getter” that’s not going to wait for me to make things happen. I feel that for a relationship to flourish we both need to be able to do our own thing! These feelings have been floating around in my head for a few months now and they won’t go away! We have talked about it (fought about it) and I keep deciding to try a little longer, but I just don’t see her becoming a driven person. She is madly in love with me, which makes it hard for me to let her go. How could I end something so good? I love her so much but I just can’t see us getting married anymore, one because I feel like everything is going to land on me…. I know things could change with time I wish I could see it but just can’t after 5 years of dating. She is also depressed and started taking meds for it about three weeks ago after we talked about breaking up. I had been urging her to seek counseling for awhile and she wouldn’t. She finally agreed to seek help after I had somewhat given her an ultimatum. That sounded harsh, but it’s basically the truth. I told her that her being down all the time was really affecting our relationship. I think it gave her a bit of a wake up call. I know in my heart I need to end it, but it will be heartbreaking for me to break her heart. I love her and she loves me more. But it must be done (I think). I just don’t know how to do it while she is feeling down already? Relationships should have drive right?? And, will I live to regret this? (email your situation to: listeners@957thebeatfm.com)
